I love the youth theme this year! If you haven’t had a chance to see the new video, catch it here: 2017 Youth Theme Video
The Young Women’s president in our ward said something profound as she spoke to the girls recently. She said “If it’s important to you, it’s important to Heavenly Father. Ask him for help.” I love that!
I have found myself faced with a lot of uncertainty and indecision in my life lately. I have struggled to find a way forward. I can’t figure out whether to start with the chicken or the egg or whether I should be looking for something like an ugly duckling instead. You see my confusion? Yeah, me either. i have felt boxed in, no matter what way I turn.
I’ve been trying to figure out what “more” looks like in my life. I bet I’m not alone. Now, my “more” is probably different than your “more,” but I bet you have one. So, do I increase this thing on the left side of the scale and will that help me to be in balance, or is that thing deceptively heavy for its size like a lump of lead? If I add it, is it just going to throw my balance off even further?
So, since I’m up late and can’t sleep AGAIN because of this problem of “more,” I’ve been thinking about my priorities. What exactly am I trying to accomplish here?
My number one priority is to my family and maximizing quality time with them as much as possible. Even writing those words down makes me feel like I’m drawing back the curtains of confusion a little bit.
I’m starting to wonder if the answer is not “more” but “less.”
Not less time with my family but “less” of all of the things I’m trying to decide about. Maybe accomplishing my #1 goal of supporting my family emotionally, spiritually, and even physically, is more likely to be successful if I do “less” of that thing that I thought I was doing to help myself and my family in the first place.
It’s scary to face this question, at least for me. I think that this is for a couple of reasons that are interrelated. First, it requires me to acknowledge that I don’t get to set the rules and outcome of this game of life. The game insists on thumbing its nose and saying “You’re not the boss of me,” and honestly, there isn’t much I can do about it. Second, that means that I must rely on faith. I must be willing to let go, to surrender, and to believe that Heavenly Father knows me, loves me, and listens to me. He will answer, if I ask, seek, and knock.
My part though, is to be willing to act on the answer received. Elder David A. Bednar explained the importance of action to faith.
“Joseph’s questions focused not just on what he needed to know but also on what was to be done! His prayer was not simply, ‘Which church is right?’ His question was, ‘Which church should I join?’ Joseph went to the grove to ask in faith, and he was determined to act.”
I also love that Heavenly Father won’t let us go too far down the wrong road.
“Most often what we have chosen to do is right. He will confirm the correctness of our choices His way. That confirmation generally comes through packets of help found along the way. We discover them by being spiritually sensitive. They are like notes from a loving Father as evidence of His approval. If, in trust, we begin something which is not right, He will let us know before we have gone too far. We sense that help by recognizing troubled or uneasy feelings.”
So, in my own “more” dilemma, I think I’ve received just enough light and guidance to feel like I need to fully consider and explore doing “less” of some things from one side of the scale that I thought were absolutely required fixtures, and instead try to imagine what that might do to my delicate balancing act.
I know that Heavenly Father will help me, if I just “Ask.”
Have you had any experiences to share? Please do so in the comments.
 David A. Bednar, 2008. Seek Learning by Faith, found here: https://www.lds.org/ensign/2007/09/seek-learning-by-faith?lang=eng
 Richard G. Scott, 2003. Recognizing Answers to Prayer, found here: https://www.lds.org/new-era/2003/08/recognizing-answers-to-prayer?lang=eng.