Blessings & Burdens

Have you ever looked at someone else and thought they had the perfect life? Maybe you’re sick…and they’re not. Or they have lots of money to buy cool toys…and you don’t. Or maybe they seem to be surrounded by friends…and you only have your pet bearded dragon to moan about the day’s drawbacks with at the end of the day.

It’s human nature to think others have more of something good than we do. The natural man in us wants to believe we are burdened by trials…and others aren’t. But from my experience, I have discovered this truth:

No one is exempt from trials, afflictions and burdens in this life.


We were sent here by a loving Heavenly Father to grow and learn. We can’t do that by taking the easy road that gains no elevation.

Most trials are easy to identify. Sickness. Pain. Addiction. Business failures. Divorce. Family troubles. Death. Infertility…and lots of other challenges I won’t terrify you by listing.

When we experience one of these dark blots, we look at others and wonder why we can’t have an easy life like they do. I’ve been guilty of doing that. But over the years, I’ve found myself on both sides of the fence—the joyous side where everything is green and rosy, and the adversity side with thorns, thistles and barbed wire traps. Here’s what I’ve learned:

There are no fencesitters

You are either facing adversity, or you’re enjoying a nice breather before the next dose of affliction whacks you onto your backside. There is no in-between.

You can still smile while facing adversity

We have the choice. We can groan and moan so everyone knows we’re suffering…or we can pray for help and mask our pain with a smile. Adding service into the mix can even lift our heavy hearts so that the smile becomes real.

Some of the happiest people I’ve known have dealt with the most horrendous trials (Multiple Sclerosis, chronic pain, loss of close family members, cancer). They chose to wear a smile and lift others around them in whatever capacity they could. One friend who was in the advanced stages of MS literally could only smile and offer me friendly conversation. When I partook of her gifts, I always left feeling as though I had interacted with an angel and been lifted to heavenly heights.

Sometimes what we believe are our blessings (wealth, status, good health) can be obstacles to spiritual growth

Look at the Book of Mormon for examples of this. When the Nephites were blessed with prosperity and peace, they relaxed spiritually and fell into the pride cycle. Mormon described it perfectly in the book of Helaman.

Yea, and we may see at the very time when he doth prosper his people, yea, in the increase of their fields, their flocks and their herds, and in gold, and in silver, and in all manner of precious things of every kind and art…and in fine, doing all things for the welfare and happiness of his people; yea, then is the time that they do harden their hearts, and do forget the Lord their God, and do trample under their feet the Holy One—yea, and this because of their ease, and their exceedingly great prosperity. (Helaman 12:2)

The very things that blessed their lives became obstacles that distanced them from God.

What we call trials are often blessings in disguise

In the next verse, Mormon goes onto expound about why we have trials:

And thus we see that except the Lord doth chasten his people with many afflictions, yea, except he doth visit them with death and with terror, and with famine and with all manner of pestilence, they will not remember him. (Helaman 12:3)

Hard things stretch us and enable us to grow.They also have the potential to help us become intimate with God. My happy friend became more compassionate, patient and loving because of what she endured for 30 years. The Lord didn’t take her disease away; it grew worse until she couldn’t move any part of her body and had to be cared for by others. Yet, I never met anyone who exuded such pure peace and joy.

The Nephites’ wars and droughts humbled them so that they turned to God and forsook their own wills for His. This led to peace and prosperity.

So, how do we enjoy blessings without becoming lazy and prideful?


In my opinion, the key is to keep the Savior as our number one priority. If we stay close to Him, we will choose the right path…the one leading to peace and joy (even in times of affliction).

In practical terms, I believe this means we do three general things each day:

Learn of Him

We pray, search the scriptures and words of modern prophets, and seek to develop a relationship with Jesus Christ. He wants us to become like Him and has atoned for us so that we may do just that.

Be Grateful

In blessings or trials, we need to remember God. Trials have the power to forcibly humble us and cause us to turn to Him. When all seems dark and dreary, drop to your knees and thank God for His love. Show your faith by submitting to His will, and ask Him to take you by the hand and carry you through the trial and learn from it. Everyone can be grateful for the gift of life, and for a new day tomorrow.

Serve Others

Too many seek to consume happiness instead of generating it. In Luke 9:24, Christ told his followers:

For whosoever will save his life shall lose it: but whosoever will lose his life for my sake, the same shall save it.

Instead of being a consumer of happiness, let us become generators of joy. Service is the key. It’s hard to be negative when we help others.

These three actions–learning of Christ, Being Grateful, and Serving can help us keep the right focus. Are we blessed or burdened? If we truly love Christ, whatever life throws at us will always be seen as a Blessing…even if it is hard, painful, or plain not fun.It isn’t that the nature of the trial changed…just our perspective through Christ.

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